Afraid to be Confident?

Everywhere you look there are messages about self love and confidence. How no matter what size, shape, height, weight, race, hair color, body type, etc. we should all embrace ourselves and love who we are. Sounds great! We can all agree with this, right? Well not exactly. Unfortunately because of the decades of bringing ourselves and each other down and assuming we need to fix what we look like, we have become extremely critical of those who are confident and consequently critical of ourselves when we feel confident.

I realized what a problem this is for myself personally when I took pictures the other day and *GASP* liked them?! Simple, raw, unedited, unfiltered images and I didn’t hate what I saw. For a split second I felt so good about this feeling of confidence. Unfortunately this moment was shattered by a new feeling. A less exciting feeling. This feeling was guilt. How dare I like they way I looked in a picture and not want to change the images in any way. Who do I think I am?! 

I decided not to post the images and instead was consumed by my feelings of not allowing myself to feel confident. I became obsessed with looking at them and picking apart what I didn’t like and telling myself why I shouldn’t like them.

Luckily, after a day or so of this I snapped out of it and realized how absurd this was. I am allowed to feel beautiful. I am allowed to enjoy the way I look. This should be the goal! I realized that the reason I enjoyed these images from the beginning was because they felt so real and raw. They were me. I’m not hiding behind makeup or fancy lighting. It’s just my skin, the sun and my emotions.

I took these when I was feeling stressed and overwhelmed by my growing to-do list and dwindling day. The sunlight in my new apartment always gives me a show during sunset, kissing the surfaces and creating stunning shadows. I make it a point to try and be home in time to watch it because it provides a sense of calm and clarity after a hectic day and prior to a most likely hectic night. These images captured this beautiful affect it has on me and I’m happy to love them. 

 

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  1. Kat
    July 19, 2017 / 6:08 pm

    yess cammie you are so inspiring!!! love this and you sooo much. you radiate positivity so much loveee

    -nowthisisbev❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:21 pm

      I just need to tell you how much I appreciate your constant support. I see you and I love you!!

      • Zee
        July 27, 2017 / 12:44 pm

        I wish i had friends like you, openminded and encouraging. Lots of love from Pakistan??❣

  2. Tracy Grant
    July 19, 2017 / 6:15 pm

    I think we all get into stressful and anxious times, it makes us human. It’s so important to be self aware and get ourselves out of those places. A lot of times…when I’m down on myself or in a stressful situation I ask myself “in 5 years will this matter” that will often snap me out of anything

    I know this doesnt have to do with confidence but I do feel like stress and anxisety can lead to a lack of it. Anywho 🙂 I love you Cam and I love your BLOG!

    -Tracy

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:22 pm

      I completely agree! I do this trick as well! But I ask “Will this matter in a month? 6 months? A Year?” seeing how quickly it no longer matters makes it much easier to put into perspective and let the little things go.

      • Leah
        July 27, 2017 / 12:29 pm

        OMGGGGGGGGG I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH !!!!!!! ????????????????????????????????????????

  3. nowthisiscamdenscott
    July 19, 2017 / 7:00 pm

    I totally understand what you mean! I always take pictures of myself and be like “omg I’m gonna post this”, but then I start thinking of what could people think of my mouth or my eyes and I end up complaining about the whole picture, and I never get to post it.
    I do support the idea of just be yourself and just ignore what people’s think if it’s not something nice. But, I still have problems with my own confidence but I really hope I get to be more confident soon!
    Btw U LOOK AMAZING ON THIS PICTURES CAM!!!
    -Andrea ❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:24 pm

      As soon as we start thinking about what everyone else with think, it ruins us. We need to focus on doing things that make us happy! And that includes feeling confident in ourselves.

  4. Joeyinn
    July 19, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    But but but…the sun is the fanciest lighting!
    Jokes aside, you’re beautiful Cammie! Everyone is beautiful in their own ways but we’re always our own toughest critic, we will always find faults in ourselves and beat ourselves up for it. It’s so hard to snap out of it sometimes so let’s remind and lift each other up from time to time!
    ❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:26 pm

      the funny thing is, we criticize what we think others won’t like. Things that don’t even bother me one bit I become self-conscious of bc I wonder if others will find it unattractive. Time to embrace our differences and not be afraid to feel good in our own skin!

  5. Hermineshy
    July 19, 2017 / 11:30 pm

    Society taught us not to be confident so as not to appear “superior” supposedly ? But all it does is showing us how to feel more insecured. ?‍♀️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:26 pm

      nothing wrong with feeling confident and badass! Time to embrace it!

  6. Iris
    July 20, 2017 / 2:34 am

    This is so true! The pressure society puts on us is greatly underrated. So many people, mostly young adults I feel, are scared to express their feelings and share their interests, even with friends, because they are so afraid of being judged by others. But these are just the things that should be important because they make you you. I was just talking with a friend about this because we both want to make a Youtube channel but are so afraid to so because of the comments we might get…
    But you have all the right to love these pictures because you are so insanely beautiful! Also, you have helped me so much in finding myself and made me realise I am gay! I am eternally grateful for that, so thank you Cammie! ❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:27 pm

      ah I love this! If you feel passionate about something, go for it! Do NOT let anyone or anything hold you back! Love you!!

  7. RD
    July 20, 2017 / 3:02 am

    That’s why u r unique you will be loved.

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:27 pm

      xoxo

  8. RD
    July 20, 2017 / 3:04 am

    Please love yourself. sleep early. Good night.Love.

  9. Lisa
    July 20, 2017 / 3:09 am

    I feel exactly the same way. The other day I was super inspired by the picture you posted with the shadow covering half your face so I tried recreating it (It doesn’t look as beautiful as yours but I mean, i tried ?) And when I finally took one I liked, I felt guilty for thinking it was pretty because so many girls feel insecure about how they look and I felt like I didn’t deserve to feel beautiful. But I ended up posting it anyway and you even retweeted it the same day which made me feel so much better so thank you ?

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:28 pm

      So proud of you and girlie that pic was so good!! You’re amazing and I adore you!

  10. JT
    July 20, 2017 / 5:54 am

    Nobody deserves to feel guilty and depressed, you live for your life and your happiness .
    Say it to feel your precious time
    Thank life every morning i wake up
    I have one more day to love myself.

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:29 pm

      so so true! <3

  11. July 20, 2017 / 9:33 am

    I’m moving into a new place soon that has a ton of natural light from windows that face west-ward, so I am looking forward to being energized by sunsets!!!

  12. Vera
    July 20, 2017 / 9:56 am

    absolutely stunning! Your inside and outside is just so beaitiful. ❤ A true inspiration !!

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:29 pm

      It has been life changing for me!

  13. July 20, 2017 / 10:47 am

    Hi!

    Really nice article 🙂
    I’ve never understood why we should feel ashamed of liking ourselves. Otherwise i think it’s really important to love yourself.
    If not you can’t attract positive energy.
    By the way i think you’re a talented writter/blogger 🙂
    ❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:29 pm

      We should never feel guilty for liking ourselves, we should be our favorite person!
      thank you love!

  14. July 20, 2017 / 1:07 pm

    Love this and needed this. We never want to look “thirsty”. But it’s not thirsty to love who we are and want to share ourselves.

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:30 pm

      fully hydrated on self love lol

  15. July 20, 2017 / 1:27 pm

    This is honestly one of my favorite blog posts. So real and in the moment of how you are and we’re feeling! We have all felt this … I think?!?? Thanks again Cam! Great post and great pics!

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:30 pm

      thank you! I had no plans to write it and just sat down and did it. Glad the rawness was felt!

  16. July 21, 2017 / 2:50 pm

    Great post, Cam! We all need a little reminder from time to time to love ourselves, especially the raw and unfiltered versions of ourselves. xo, Ace

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:30 pm

      Couldn’t agree more 🙂

  17. Cayden
    July 27, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    Would you ever consider coming to South Africa? I would also like to tell you that you are one of my biggest role models!

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:31 pm

      Thank you, Cayden! (ps Cayden and Camden are such similar names!) I would love to come to South Africa one day!

  18. Valentina Stortini
    July 27, 2017 / 12:19 pm

    I’m so proud of you! You are a great woman!
    After this post, probably I’m going to be more confident with myself. . Thank you so much little angel❤

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:31 pm

      LOVE hearing this! xoxo

      • Valentina Stortini
        July 27, 2017 / 12:34 pm

        I will support you forever!?

      • Valentina Stortini
        July 27, 2017 / 12:36 pm

        I’m waiting for you in Italy, especially in Rome!!!??

  19. Gabbie Jordan
    July 27, 2017 / 12:20 pm

    This is amazing. Truly amazing. I have had the same situation happen to me before. I was so happy with some pictures I had taken of myself, but then felt so nervous and scared to post or share them because of other people’s thoughts and feelings about them. I’m glad to know that I’m not alone and have someone as great and beautiful as you have the same thoughts. I think you are so inspiring and more helpful than you could ever know. I love and so much, your the best <3

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Each day try to focus more on what inspires you, drives you and energizes you. Not what does those things for others. We need to start focusing on ourselves and we can than better this world! xoxo

  20. Miranda
    July 27, 2017 / 12:21 pm

    Aww Cam this blog post has such a real and beautiful message. I think its amazing that you encourage us all to try and love ourselves. Thank you for the words you write and the videos you make. ?

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:33 pm

      so glad you liked it! Just trying to share my journey to self love with you all!

  21. July 27, 2017 / 12:21 pm

    I already left a comment on here preveiously but I just saw your post that you’ll be chatting on here in a little. So I just wanted to say again that this is prolly one of my favorite blog posts you’ve done. So real and in the moment on how you were feeling. I think everyone feels this way. Not only in looks but life also if that makes sense. Like I think sometimes we feel guilty when we are happy, and life is going well.. especially if we know people who’s life’s aren’t going well.. this is something all humans need to work on. It’s okay to have sympathy but we shouldn’t feel bad about feeling good, feeling happy, doing good, or feeling confident in our own skin <3

  22. Ellie
    July 27, 2017 / 12:22 pm

    Hey cammie, this isn’t really related to this post which is great by the way! But i’m moving to university this year and don’t know how long to wait or to wait at all to come out to people. I don’t want to scream and shout it as I believe it isn’t the most important thing about me and I don’t want people just to remember me because i’m gay. Please can I have your advice on this, I am a bit nervous about it. Thank you xx

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:39 pm

      I think that once you are fully comfortable with yourself you stop thinking about the process of coming out. It becomes a natural thing to share. Just as heterosexuals don’t need to state it when they meet people, neither do you. I someone asks if you have a boyfriend you can simply say no and add that you prefer girls. If you don’t want to make a thing of it, just let it happen organically. <3

      • Ellie
        July 27, 2017 / 1:00 pm

        Thank you so much xx

  23. Sasha
    July 27, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    I took a picture of my butt yesterday and cried, ima look at it again and find something good. Thanks. My apartment gets incredible evening sun too, it changes my mood so much. Your pics are gorg.

  24. Emily
    July 27, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    Hey Cammie,
    I started following you a long time ago because I loved what you stood for. I have always had a problem with my self image. I never felt beautiful, I always saw everyone else and thought of how beautiful they all were and still are. But I could never feel that way about myself. I am finally starting to feel confident in myself and it is because I started putting the right type of people in my life, and you are one of those people. I love being able to listen to what you have to say because I go through many similar situations. And since I have started being confident and happy with who I am and what I look like I have had amazing things happening in my life.

    I am so happy with how life has been and I thank you for being yourself and being so real for me and your followers.
    I love you Cammie

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:37 pm

      I am so lucky to be a part of your journey to self love! We need more incredible humans in this world like you! Keep being amazing and lifting others up!!

  25. Hala
    July 27, 2017 / 12:24 pm

    I make it a point to wear as little makeup as possible and step by step I came to love the way that I look. It bothers me little what others think of me and I’m glad someone as naturally beautiful as you is spreading this message. Love you Cammie ❤️

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:36 pm

      honestly I feel the most beautiful when I’m working out. No make up. No fancy clothing. No done up hair. Just the real, raw me!

  26. Heather
    July 27, 2017 / 12:25 pm

    You should make more videos with Amy, I loved the video!!?

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:35 pm

      we definitely will!

  27. Margauxcornell
    July 27, 2017 / 12:26 pm

    Do you have any advice for getting that initial first glimpse of not hating yourself? I just struggle with it heavily being trans, lesbian, and struggling with an ed. Like I know objectively I should know I am attractive based on individual brands and agencies trying to get me to model, but I just can’t see the glimpse.

    Ps. I love your videos and the femme problems one was accurate af.

    ~Margaux

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:35 pm

      that’s the thing…we are so worried about what others think and try to please them, yet even once we receive validation from others we don’t feel confident. Confidence comes from within so we need to seek it out from ourselves. Sit down and write a list of what brings you true happiness in life and focus on that list everyday. Our appearance is just a manifestation of our perceptions of ourselves. Tell yourself who you are and what you want to be and even how you want to look and so it will be!

  28. Valentina Stortini
    July 27, 2017 / 12:31 pm

    I’m so proud of you! You are a great woman!
    After this post, probably I’m going to be more confident with myself. . Thank you so much little angel❤

  29. Kamila
    July 27, 2017 / 12:33 pm

    Hello 😉 i like Your pic.I like Your voice.I like to watch u on YT.I like to read Your blog and translate it..it takes me always not so long time but its difficult to understund most of words xD And YT..omg,hard level for me 😀 .Im from Poland,my dream ? Meet You.I watch Your snaps? Insta pics and all……I send u some pics and videos from my city on snap but u cant see them im not Your friend 🙁 silly me .So sorry for spam Camden and grrets,Good night (in PL is 21:33) sorry for my English 🙂

  30. July 27, 2017 / 12:33 pm

    I think it’s pretty much finding a balance. Being confident isn’t a bad thing, but too much confidence, and you can seem cocky or self absorbed. But I also think there isn’t anything wrong with being humble, and again, if you’re too humble, you’re self deprecating. Love yourself, be humble, and if it’s coming from a place of genuinity and you spread those feelings with positivity then I say do it and feel no shame <3

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:42 pm

      that’s the thing though, we get labeled cocky or self absorbed for simply enjoying who we are. That’s not right. You can be fully in love with yourself and also humble. We judge each other for liking ourselves yet tell everyone to have self love…huge contradiction.

      • July 27, 2017 / 12:54 pm

        Yeah you’re right, no one is ever satisfied haha so just do you and not care what ppl think. You’re original message was on point my bad ??

      • July 27, 2017 / 12:57 pm

        I love you btw ? I do the ocm because of you and it’s amazing ^_^

  31. Serena
    July 27, 2017 / 12:33 pm

    I think that no matter how “society” makes us feel about liking our own pictures, if we like them we should just feel fucking proud about it!!! I know it’s hard, because when i take pictures that i find good-looking it feel guilty too for a bit… But honestly at the end of the day, we must feel free to do whatever we want with it

  32. Morgan
    July 27, 2017 / 12:34 pm

    Omg Cammie this was so amazing to read!! I have now read this 3 times and each time I do I love it even more! Thank you for everything you do because it truly is amazing! You are one of the few people that have helped me feel like I am normal, that being gay isn’t weird or horrible and that I have to love myself no matter what because everyone deserves to be themselves.

    Thank you so much Cammie! You have no idea how much you have helped me come to terms with who I am. ♡♡

    ~Morgan

    • Morgan
      July 27, 2017 / 12:44 pm

      It’s also hard to accept and understand myself when I have no one to talk to, so watching your videos and reading our blog is so amazing and helpful!

  33. Serena
    July 27, 2017 / 12:35 pm

    I think that no matter how “society” makes us feel about liking our own pictures, if we like them we should just feel fucking proud about it!!! I know it’s hard, because when i take pictures that i find good-looking i feel guilty too for a bit… But honestly at the end of the day, we must feel free to do whatever we want with it

  34. Lauren
    July 27, 2017 / 12:36 pm

    Such an important message. It’s awesome to see girls brining one another up rather than down. And it’s a beautiful thing to encourage and have self confidence. So glad you have this platform to say the things that so badly need to be said

    • cammiescott
      July 27, 2017 / 12:43 pm

      thank you! girls supporting girls. what could be better!

  35. Cat Webb
    July 27, 2017 / 12:46 pm

    I think we have different kinds of Confident in all of us, like I am very Confident person in some situations , will chat to anyone and everyone, but put me in spot light is on me one on one and boom it goes out the window, I’m also very shy person, very hard on myself too, like you are. Why are we so hard on ourselves, my mamma tells me “don’t put yourself down, plenty of other ppls out there will do that for you” which is true.
    Cammie one things I like about you and with Kara now too, is that neither of you are scared or worried and have inner confident to show yourself without ya hair done, make up on and just being your normal around the house look, you turned up on live.me in a blue face mask ffs, so to say you don’t have the Confident to show the real you is not the case you do it without thinking about it all the time and that is inner peace within yourself and Confident for just being your own self to ppl. Maybe You lose you confident when you look too closely at what you think others will see in you as imperfections. As you growing you will see that those ppl don’t mean anything in your life. Or you feel guilty about looking so good in those pics, just pick them apart before someone else does. Idk but Always have the Confident to just be yaself, that’s the best person to be. xx ?

  36. Ruby
    July 27, 2017 / 12:49 pm

    Your self love teaches and encourages other young girls (me) to love them selves. This post is so true and impactful thank you ❤️

  37. Adelaide
    July 27, 2017 / 12:50 pm

    I so agreee. Sometimes I’ll feel pretty, without any makeup, without wearing a real cute outfit, and then automatically feel like I’m being cocky or too full of myself. I’ve noticed this about myself a lot lately because I don’t know how to take a compliment. If someone tells me that they like something about me, I always tend to downplay it for whatever reason. I’m not sure why.

    Also, when it comes to the race issue (me being black) – I spent so much of my younger years wishing I were white/lighter and it took so long for me to not only accept, but love & appreciate my race and notice how beautiful my physical traits were due to them. It’s a process, but ultimately, confidence is something that we all have to work on every single day.

  38. Åsa
    July 27, 2017 / 12:52 pm

    I’m totally agreeing with you and I just wanted to say how damn inspiring you are and how much positivity and love you’re giving.
    Love you soo much ❤️

  39. Nicole
    July 27, 2017 / 12:53 pm

    I just have to say when I was going through really hard times, trying to figure out who am I? Why do I feel this way? And kinda started to feel ashamed when I was finding the answers to things like that, I watched your videos remembering I don’t need to feel ashamed and I should embrace who I am. Your positive additude and look on the world really helped me be happy with myself and become proud of who I am. So thank you thank you thank you!!

  40. abbey
    July 27, 2017 / 12:58 pm

    you ARE allowed to feel beautiful. you ARE allowed to take up space, in whatever capacity that looks like for you. embrace the confidence and believe that you deserve it because you do. society tells us it’s bad to be selfish, but in reality, we need to distinguish between being selfish and self-centered. being selfish is a good thing- everyone should be selfish in the regard of self-care and self-love and know that sometimes, one needs to put themselves and their wellbeing first, but while still having the ability to care about others. i think the danger is when someone crosses over the line of becoming self-centered, not caring about anyone but themself.

  41. Åsa
    July 27, 2017 / 1:01 pm

    and I also think that it’s so good of you sharing this and showing others that it is totally okay loving themselves or look at a picture and love what there seeing without feeling guilty.

  42. July 27, 2017 / 1:02 pm

    I absolutely love this, from the very first time i saw your videos i’ve seen myself in a completely different way, you radiate positivity, love and acceptance, you have a great power of making people feel good about themselves in this society where fear and insecurity has taken so much from us, so THANK YOU, for putting up videos that make me and a lot of us go through life, next time you feel bad about yourself look again, always look again because you have all of us who LOVE YOU forever!
    PS: i want to meet you and give you a big hug

    Stef, from Colombia ?? with love ❤️

  43. Christina
    July 27, 2017 / 1:05 pm

    It’s not easy for everyone to be confident..I can’t be confident for who I am near to my family and my friends as well. (Sorry for my English, I’m from Greece)

    • Sim
      July 27, 2017 / 1:27 pm

      Hey, I’m from Greece too! I’m glad that there’s more than one person here who loves Cammie. Just allow yourself to be happy and everything will come naturally, nobody’s perfect! (Also it’s weird that we both speak the same language but I’m writing to you in English hahah) xx

      • Christina
        July 27, 2017 / 1:32 pm

        Δεν είναι τόσο εύκολο να είμαι ο εαυτός μου ..(πρέπει να ανταλλαξουμε ινσταγκραμ?)

        • Sim
          July 27, 2017 / 2:16 pm

          Εγώ πιστεύω πως όλοι μας κάποια στιγμή (μια ή περισσότερες φορές) στην ζωή μας θα περάσουμε κάτι πολύ δύσκολο. Όμως ποτέ δεν ξέρεις τι θα σου φέρει το μέλλον για αυτό μπορείς να πιστεύεις σε πολλά πράγματα! chillinindacoffin πολύ fancy name χαχαχαχα

  44. Toya
    July 27, 2017 / 1:10 pm

    Reading this just made my day. You are so talented in the way you write and speak that it leaves me speechless most days. I love the fact that you are so completely raw in not just in the pictures, but also in your writing. Thank you for sharing who you are!

  45. Sim
    July 27, 2017 / 1:23 pm

    In one of your videos you said “Live your life for yourself. Not for someone else.” Weeeelll, it’s not the exact thing you said but you got it hehe… So, live your life the way YOU want! Love yourself for who you are. Make memories! I hope you the best in life xx

  46. Layna
    July 27, 2017 / 1:34 pm

    i feel this so hard especially as a femme! our community is so hard on being a “hot model femme” im not a model and have some rolls but realize i need to accept it. its so hard though, thank you for showing us even instagrammers have their doubts. let the sunshine in cammie youre wonderful!

  47. Westcoast
    July 27, 2017 / 1:34 pm

    Hey Cammie (: can you advice me a really good face cream ? Im obsessed with face care and I want to change it up a little , so you have any good ones ? Thank youu

  48. Kristen
    July 27, 2017 / 7:19 pm

    I know people say “you can’t change all things all at once”. But these are the tiny steps we can take. One post, but such a HUGE impact. And this is why I love you. These words inspire me to do something that would give confidence & happiness to someone else who’s watching a video or reading a post like this. Keep on inspiring Cammie !! ?

  49. Nikki
    July 27, 2017 / 8:04 pm

    you’re such a beautiful inspiration. thank you for making lives better every day!

  50. Annie
    July 27, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    Cammie this is so lovely and precious! I’m extremely thankful that you shared such a true piece of yourself and your thoughts and battles with all of us! Thank you, really. This really helped me 🙂

  51. Elyana
    July 28, 2017 / 6:06 am

    A lot of people need to hear that.. so keep going, we lovee you
    obs: i dreamd about u today, so i woke up vefy happy, and opened my instagtam to check if there is something new… hahah ♡♡♡♡

  52. Alison
    July 28, 2017 / 10:49 am

    Cammie you’re so amazing beautiful and inspiring and watching all of your videos makes my day 1000x better just knowing you’re always there for everyone no matter what is going on.

  53. Medina
    July 28, 2017 / 11:31 am

    Last night my little sister asked me what self-esteem was. Her question caught me by surprise because she’s twelve and I thought she would have known by now but then again I don’t think I knew what self-esteem was when I was that age.
    At first I had a hard time trying to explain it in words so I switched to telling her my personal experiences as examples. I told her, “remember when I sang in front of a crowd for the first time? I had high self-esteem because people were clapping and I felt good about myself. Or say if… oh I don’t know… you ask someone out three times and they cancel on you… three times. You might have low self-esteem. But just because you have low self-esteem one day doesn’t mean you’ll have it the next. Do you kind of understand?”
    Now would be a good time to explain that my sister has way too much sass and sarcasm in her body to ever take anything seriously.
    She replied, “suuuurrreee. Hahaha yeah let’s pretend like I know anything about asking someone out. I’ll just accept the fact that I’ll be forever alone. I don’t have self-esteem. Hahaha what are feelings? I’m a robot…” then she proceeded to do the robot dance.
    I know she just wanted to lighten the mood but I hope one day she’ll understand.

  54. Sophie Russell
    August 5, 2017 / 9:38 am

    Your photos remind me of Marilyn Monroe/Norma Jeane – she used to just have pictures taken of her while she acted out different moods through her facial expressions, I think she must have found this activity therapeutic herself and her pictures always celebrated natural, untouched beauty.

    There’s, in my opinion, a balance that needs to be struck when thinking about confidence. It is perfectly fine to feel confident in yourself, even if that part of you you love isn’t presented the same way as it supposedly “should”… the trick is knowing what the Universe as a whole values and believing that it IS enough. I think we have all been tricked to believe we have to follow a set of rules and when you get into a routine, such as using filters, putting make-up on, watching/admiring vloggers on youtube, etc, it is easy to feel guilty when for a moment you realise the thing you value (or the universe/mother nature values) truly is something that doesn’t require all those extra bits… you need to understand that it is just a superficial ego-driven routine that is drumming out your true identity, and try to let it go… I generally pride myself on having confidence in who I really am, but very frequently that confidence gets drummed out of me but ONLY at times when I feel guilty for not following the rules that other people set out or not taking other options that are offered. As they say, guilt is a wicked ghost!

    I think we all have the potential to be confident in ourselves, but we don’t often let ourselves be confident because it’s like the jealousy of others stirs up our guilt of having something that you never tried hard to have but was there for you all along.

    It’s okay to be different; it’s okay to be imperfect. So long as we be, with confidence and pride. ?

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